Enneagram Type 4: The Romantic

    When I think of a type 4, I think moody, artistic, creative, the need to be distinctive. This photo of Bob Dylan from the New York Times just captures the feeling of a Four. They create so much beauty just by being willing to embrace the darkness in life.
     Being friends with a Four can be a wild ride. As a Two, I always want to fix things and make you feel better. My friends who are Fours don't want to be fixed, in fact, they tend to create more chaos for themselves because in sadness and strife they have more energy and creativity.

     I used to run with a Four and I couldn't understand him. He always complained about how each race went and how awful he felt the whole time. I'd go home and wonder why he ran. If it makes me that unhappy and it's voluntary, I stop doing it. I'd never run again. But he loved it. In fact, he keeps extending the distances and challenging himself with harder events. Crazy, right? No, just being a Four.
      My first video this week is from Richard Rohr. I love how he describes the Four's need to be different and distinctive. Also, check out the comments below, they are the reason I chose this video. In some ways they describe the energy of a Four even better than Fr. Rohr.

My next video is three Fours describing themselves. I love how self-aware they are. Also, one of the women describes discovering her type. Many women believe they are Twos at first because the energy of a Two is considered appropriate for women in our society. Enjoy!